tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315861630765119669.post1652673440016433911..comments2024-03-10T10:34:02.181+02:00Comments on The Alliterative Allomorph: Symbolic Interactionism: The Key to CharacterizationJessica Bellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10889900730906728317noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315861630765119669.post-77724773352980454402011-06-20T08:40:04.086+03:002011-06-20T08:40:04.086+03:00Could also have something to do with the sentiment...Could also have something to do with the sentiment "you can't pick your family." Even when you pick your mate, you're doing so based on life "tapes" that you play over and over within your head/heart. You could be trying to fix a parent by marrying someone just like them and making it work.<br /><br />Your friends are your companions by preference; and sometimes you family and other friends do not understand the attraction but they do understand "hey, I don't have to live with them, just have fun."<br /><br />Cool scenario. Yeah, Gina sees all the history and baggage she has with her mother, and sees a building of a relationship with the friend.<br /><br />Humans are so complex; its what makes us fun to write about. In my own women's fic, I'm writing from a single POV; but I try to allow the reader to say "wait, why didn't you catch . ."<br /><br />Getting a perspective right is hard - no matter how many or few you have. Because you also have to consider the reader perspective, and hope they see your vision as the author.<br /><br />Love this post Jessica. I know I've been following you; for a long time. I fell off of so many blogs, and so they disappeared from my reader, during the great blogger crisis. I'm following again, hopefully I'll be able to "see you" again :)<br /><br />...........dholedolorahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08715849844092553699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315861630765119669.post-39412810375287691092011-06-19T08:41:32.558+03:002011-06-19T08:41:32.558+03:00This is interesting, and something I haven't r...This is interesting, and something I haven't really heard of before. Definitely valuable for characterization. I guess she is still trying to separate and prove herself to her mother? People tend to feel more judged by their parents than by friends, who they believe like them the way they are. I'd say it's automatic to rebel against your parents a little bit (for some, at least), whereas you don't feel the need to rebel against a friend.<br /><br />Sort of related, I know that if I have a bad day, I'm likely going to take it out on my husband, not my friends, because I feel safe with him and know he won't stop contacting me if I blow off a little steam with him. <br /><br /><a href="http://kmdlifeisgood.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow"> Tina @ Life is Good</a><br />and I are joining forces in another challenge. We're going to visit and comment at each of the participants, starting with the reflections post. We hope you'll join us!<br /><br /><a href="http://thewarriormuse.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow"> Shannon @ The Warrior Muse</a>Shannon Lawrencehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00934641808195675935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315861630765119669.post-11870752524138601952011-06-18T22:11:27.762+03:002011-06-18T22:11:27.762+03:00Fascinating, and so true! I dealt with this in Mon...Fascinating, and so true! I dealt with this in Monarch, too, and it was fun. :)Michelle D. Argylehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09696465137285587646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315861630765119669.post-65200698175010782742011-06-16T23:12:31.910+03:002011-06-16T23:12:31.910+03:00Interesting topic--certainly something uber import...Interesting topic--certainly something uber important to keep in mind. <br /><br />Nice!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315861630765119669.post-4577545159639934592011-06-16T21:46:15.048+03:002011-06-16T21:46:15.048+03:00I really like this post because I love reading boo...I really like this post because I love reading books where we see characters in different lights. Great example, too!Jill Kemererhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07865493609868329393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315861630765119669.post-68973709470117902572011-06-16T20:26:05.051+03:002011-06-16T20:26:05.051+03:00It's always safer to vent frustrations and ang...It's always safer to vent frustrations and angst at someone like your mother because you know they'll love you anyway--that forgiveness is virtually automatic. We don't have that kind of guarantee with friends.Shannon O'Donnellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17299313309059235876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315861630765119669.post-1103080106011761312011-06-16T17:12:26.536+03:002011-06-16T17:12:26.536+03:00Yes! I love this! There are lots of different ways...Yes! I love this! There are lots of different ways to describe/term "symbolic interactions"--from the psychological literature we have "social information processing" at a broad level and "attributions" (like you mention above) at a narrower level. You're absolutely right about how they influence our behavior with specific individuals--and then you have to add in the pressure/influence of the situation. Like, for example, Gina might behave differently toward her mother if others are witnessing that interaction, or if it was taking place somewhere outside of her home, etc. It would definitely be a challenge to write from multiple perspectives, as you have to keep a firm grip on the complexity--and keep it consistent. Great post, Jessica!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06636585111057799728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315861630765119669.post-75582448791412633802011-06-16T17:08:29.313+03:002011-06-16T17:08:29.313+03:00It's hard to say. Usually, when I get snippy w...It's hard to say. Usually, when I get snippy with people, it's either because I feel like they're constantly trying to tell me what to do, or because they're not around enough to have the right to tell me what to do.<br /><br />Good luck. <br /><br /><3 Gina BlechmanG Blechmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16707186693109337726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315861630765119669.post-88576556112195521972011-06-16T16:14:35.238+03:002011-06-16T16:14:35.238+03:00Gina's reaction to her mother could have been ...Gina's reaction to her mother could have been based on their past or it could be based on Gina's desire to become independent, a grown-up.Helen Gingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09794759602654727110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315861630765119669.post-21569158587161048652011-06-16T15:34:10.636+03:002011-06-16T15:34:10.636+03:00As the saying goes "We Always Hurt The Ones W...As the saying goes "We Always Hurt The Ones We Love" is a perfect example. My son has severed all ties with me and also depriving me of seeing the grand children, why?<br />.......I don'tknow, one minute all was well and now nothing apart from abusive text messages last month.<br /><br />Yvonne.RHYTHM AND RHYMEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11386975261804630799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315861630765119669.post-84616533499535864922011-06-16T15:32:47.077+03:002011-06-16T15:32:47.077+03:00I think their relationship is typical of most moth...I think their relationship is typical of most mothers/daughters. Having been through the cycle of daughter and now mother, it just seems to just continue. A great read is My Mother Myself: The Daughter's Search for Identity by Nancy Friday. It came out in the '70's when women like me couldn't get enough of these self help/self diagnose our lives books.Karen Baldwinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01522178275164058849noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315861630765119669.post-65819132553384138722011-06-16T15:21:17.425+03:002011-06-16T15:21:17.425+03:00You're always making up characters with mom is...You're always making up characters with mom issues.<br /><br />And I think you may be too smart for me.Matthew MacNishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03264738483763244969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315861630765119669.post-11567938426435703132011-06-16T15:18:30.647+03:002011-06-16T15:18:30.647+03:00Writing is complicated stuff isn't it?
I gue...Writing is complicated stuff isn't it? <br />I guess there are many reasons why she would react to her mom that way from PMS to had a bad day to previous experience or maybe she is just a B herself...who knows....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315861630765119669.post-59421048311462427122011-06-16T14:46:18.969+03:002011-06-16T14:46:18.969+03:00I also think we give ourselves more freedom to say...I also think we give ourselves more freedom to say what's on our minds to people we have closer ties with. This can be a bad thing, as in the case with Gina. If she was in a mood, frustrated from something that happened earlier in the day, for example, she might blow off that steam by snipping at her mom, where she wouldn't take that liberty with a friend.<br /><br />Very interesting stuff!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01899768909313326172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315861630765119669.post-32494207664797283672011-06-16T14:12:31.013+03:002011-06-16T14:12:31.013+03:00I think Alex is right - past history and all the i...I think Alex is right - past history and all the interactions that have gone before that we don't necessarily see inform the reaction. Mother/daughter relationships are the most fraught with symbolic interactionism, it would seem ;-)And, btw, thanks for the new term - love it.Katie O'Sullivanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17295418503546522882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315861630765119669.post-57371252255337693142011-06-16T14:03:31.775+03:002011-06-16T14:03:31.775+03:00Guess our reactions are based on our past history ...Guess our reactions are based on our past history with people. Need to keep that in mind as I'm writing!Alex J. Cavanaughhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09770065693345181702noreply@blogger.com