Monday 25 March 2013

Ever just wanna throw everything away and live like a bum?

... well, a slightly more elaborate bum.

I do.

I want a life outside of the house ... I work from home, I write from home, I market and promote my books and music from home, I play guitar and sing ... at home (yeah like once every six months). I eat, I shit, I cook, I (don't) clean ... at home. I even go outside, at home. Yeah, that doesn't make sense to you, but it does to me.

There's got to be a way I can do everything I need to do away from home. My sanctuary is becoming a prison!

If only I had more money (yes, don't we all wish that.)

Like this:


I wish I could just throw everything I own away. (Well, donate it to somebody.) Buy a laptop with a decent sized screen so I can do my work from anywhere, and live out of a couple of suitcases. But there are these things called spouses and dogs. (Well, I only have one of each.)


Do you ever feel trapped in your own home?


  1. Honestly I don't. I love working from home and the hassle that comes from commuting while trying to get my kids ready for school. And I've seen those houses. They're cute but I'd get claustrophobic in them. :)

  2. Have definitely felt this way before! Are you sure you can't incorporate a daily walk, or an outdoor exercise routine, or a weekly 'date night' where you and your partner go out and try something new, or dine somewhere different?

    Other than that, I'd suggest you need a sea change! It's not for nothing, though -- you're definitely accomplishing things with your writing!

  3. Yes. No. Um...maybe not living like a bum, but a regular escape from the chaos of life to replenish would be nice.

    That trailer is too funny. I was just watching a show the other day about homes like this. There were some really awesome ones. :)

  4. I spent six weeks living out of a backpack once, when I was young. It was pretty awesome, but now that I have kids, I kind of need the security of a home.

  5. Hi Jess - couldn't agree more .. but am working in that direction .. feels snail like! Once some reasonable weather comes I'll be off seeing friends and family and working as I go - somehow!

    Look after yourself .. loads is going on .. cheers Hilary

  6. I work outside the home, so I don't get tired of my house. I am looking forward to being there more for awhile when I'm laid off. But I would like to donate many of the things we (my family) hoards here that we don't need.

  7. How about a house boat? Then you could visit other countries with ease.

    I work from home and some days I about climb the wall wanting to get out.

  8. It sounds like you have cabin fever! It's snowing here right now; even though it's pretty to look at, I'd much rather be in Fiji looking at the clear blue-green ocean!

  9. yeah sometimes. I'm with you in that i work from home. I try to get out with a class or some hanging with friends every now in then, but more often than not, i'm home.
    I wish i had land and space. Then my home wouldn't feel tight. And maybe being home would be an acre away from my house while walking the dogs, or gardening

  10. Maybe it’s an age thing but the older I get—and I feel a lot older than I am—the more incentive I need to actually leave my nice warm flat. I go out when I have to but if it can be done over the phone or on the Internet that’s how I’ll do it. When I’m out I try to do the kind of things I used to do (and enjoy) but I just feel Been there, done that these days. When I was a kid I was always out of the house roaming and investigating. Part of the reason I think I’ve changed is having a wife who finds getting round hard—even on a good day she walks with a stick—and I don’t enjoy my own company as much as I used to; I don’t really enjoy going out without her. And that’s it, I’m never alone for any length of time here. I suppose if I was I might feel lonely but even on her tri-annual trips to the States I still never go out until I have to pick her up from the airport, in fact I’d say I’m even less inclined to leave the flat when she’s away.

  11. We all could use a break from the same routine.

    I did travel light when I came to Canada, there was only so much a former student had to cart around anyway. It was liberating when I reached a milestone and didn't have to take much with me to divert in another direction. But with responsibility (family, job, etc) comes 'things'.

    I know now that I like a secure nest to return to, after my flights of exploring. I just wish I had a place near water to get away to when I need the sea air or just a water view (it restores me).

  12. My house is my refuge, so I like being trapped there. I'd like to get rid of more 'stuff' though.

  13. Wouldn't you just be trapped in your home, in a more scenic (?) locale?

    This is the wrong time to ask me this. It's March 25 and I live in Wisconsin and it's 20 degrees today with snow all over the place, and I've been going nuts because I like to get outside, take the kids to the park, walk around, do that kind of thing. So I feel trapped in my house, very much, but I won't (hopefully) in another month or so.

    But I think the bigger thing is: you need to get out more! I go to an office five or six days a week, and get to a health club when I can to work out, and go for walks, and the like. My wife, who takes care of our kids at home, doesn't get out as much, and I try to force her to get away from me and the kids and leave the house. When you're at home, you're never really relaxing, I think. You can't. Even if you're just sitting outside the bathroom trying to watch a movie on the iPad while your second-youngest tries to poop...

    ...long story:'re still looking at the dust bunnies under the couch, or the dishes in the sink, or the tubs of toys you've been promising your wife you will go through and sort for months now, and that all weighs heavily on you.

    But if you get up and drive someplace nearby and sit down with a bag lunch and a book to read, the only thing that bugs you is those people sitting in the corner, and you can ignore them.

    So maybe do that: pick a time or two a week and get out of the house and go do something, by yourself or with someone. And if you do it, tell me how to get Sweetie to do it. She seems almost leery of leaving the house, mumbling something about how I "almost burnt the house down that time" but that was really the macaroni's fault, not MINE.

  14. I wish I could work from home! I have the laptop. When I retire I plan on buying an RV or travel trailer and going where ever I please and staying for a while. Direct deposit is awesome. I'll have my iPhone, lap top, no responsibilities just meeting the next writing deadline and seeing the places I want to see.

    Only four more years before all the kids are moved out!


  15. I have a day job so I work from my government office and have to steal time to write on evenings and weekends. I don't feel trapped in my home. But that picture of the one you posted sure looks small. I think that more than anything would make me feel trapped.

  16. I periodically feel exactly this way. And sometimes I go. Clear out the extras, rent or sublet the house and get on a plane. Sometimes it works out great, sometimes not so much. But I get to have adventures. I think we need them. I do anyway. Maybe you can't leave it all, but try taking a mini-vacation. Even without the dog and spouse. I once walked into a travel agency and said "I have 500 bucks and 5 days. What can you do for me?" I got a nice little get-away to Baja. Go have some fun!


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