Wednesday 5 January 2011

An important dedication to an important soul.

It's been a hard turn of the year for Candace, so I, plus a few others have decided to try and put a smile on her face today. I have never met Candace face to face, but I may as well have. She has not only played a huge part in boosting my self-esteem, and showing me love, over the past six or so months that we've gotten to know each other, but she has become a sweet soul I don't think I could ever live without.

Candace's blog is honest. She speaks from her heart. She doesn't blog about subjects she thinks is going to draw a ton of hits. She blogs because she needs to, wants to, and wishes to share, with all of us, the pain, joy, ache, sorrow and excitement of being a mother, musician and writer. And she has a unique voice. And you know why she has a unique voice? Because she is REAL. She never tries to be someone she's not. And I ADORE her for that. I APPRECIATE that. I know that when I go to read her blog every morning, I'm going to get the TRUTH. Whether it be the hard raw bitterness of grief, or the quirky light-hearted wit and wisdom of motherhood, it's the truth - no holding back. And she should be admired for that. I DO admire her for that.

Not many bloggers are as strong or as genuine as Candace. Candace has a backbone, and I think many of us could learn a thing or two from her. So if you too admire honesty, visit her blog today and show her a little love. Show her that despite the hell she is living through right now, she has us - friends that love and care for her, and support her no matter what.

If you'd like to see who else thinks this highly of Candace, take a look at these following blog posts:

But remember, today is not about us, it's about Candace, so please don't feel the need to comment here, just drop by and say hello to an amazingly inspirational woman that needs as many hugs as she can get right now, whether they be real or virtual. Just go.

Candace, I wrote the following prose poem during a time of great sorrow and depression, and by the time I finished it, I saw my pain in a totally different light. I'd like to share it with you, and hope that maybe it can change your perspective a little as well. I love you. I always will. Hang in there sweetheart.

The Dolour Thief
I turn off the ignition. For a split second, I wish I had a garage to gas myself in. I rest my arms, my head on the steering wheel. When did I realise, life does not heal? I need to cry, to feel, the emptiness, the ache. Not an ache. Hatred. A ghost. Breathing all my air. I look through the windshield at the trees struggling to shift in the thin hot breeze. I lean back in my seat and close my eyes—listen to the hum of sin brush against my skin. The only lingering proof left of him. Of us. I wish for sorrow to get caught on me like a broken nail in wool. To remind myself I’m human, that I can feel pain, that for once in this life I am allowed to, without constraint. It’s time to bond with it, this grief. No pain? No relief. No relief? No joy. I must deem it vital to survival, change colour with its leaves. I’ll become the leader of The Dolour Thieves.



33 comments:

  1. This is really great. I can almost feel how much you care about her from your words!

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  2. That was really nice of you to do for Candace!

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  3. What a wonderful idea, which I'm sure she's going to appreciate. I'm sorry she's having a hard time. I'll visit her blog.

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  4. Wonderful. Absolutely wonderful. I heart Candace and I heart you! You guys are wonderful.

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  5. You're not such a bad soul yourself.

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  6. It is amazing how we get so attached to each other. How when one of us is in pain we feel it too. Lovely tribute to Candace, Jessica.

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  7. I saw the Candy love on Matt's post this morning. What a sweet thing you guys are doing. :)

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  8. Sweet and beautiful! Just like Candace!

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  9. You captured Candace perfectly! Off to show some love. :)

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  10. Jessica, that is a gorgeous piece! I love how you used words, esp. the trees shifting and how sin brushed against your skin. Beautiful.

    Now I'm off to visit Candace, a woman who has something I need: a backbone. LOL

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  11. Wow. Just wow. You are awesome. And so is Candace.

    ~JD

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  12. Amazing! Going over to Candace's...

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  13. I went to Candace's blog as commanded. Just wanted you to know I think what you are doing is very cool.

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  14. Lovely. She is a beautiful soul.

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  15. Your poem is absolutely beautiful, and powerful.

    Candace is a true and genuine inspiration. I'm so glad to have found her blog.

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  16. Oh, what a nice post, and what a good friend you are. I love this community that does this for each other when things are gloomy.

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  17. I love you so much. Beautiful. Just...beautiful...

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  18. That was great!
    And I love Candace too. She is so awesome.

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  19. Awesome! And Candace is amazing. =)

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  20. I just wanted to say that that poem really touched me. Thank you so much for posting it, and I just went over to Candice's blog too.

    Anyways, looking forward to reading more of your posts, and also wishing Candice the best.

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  21. By the way, I love that you write women's fiction!

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  22. hi miss jessica! youre words bout candyland are just soooo her. your words for how much you love her her are just soooo you. i love miss candace! i love you!
    ...big hugs from lenny

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  23. I will pop over later on this evening. Thanks for your support for her, most kind.

    Yvonne.

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  24. Wonderful. Beautiful. And oh-so-special! I love you both. :-)

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  25. A beautiful tribute to a beautiful soul...from a beautiful soul. You always amaze me, girl. xo

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  26. I'm holding Candace close to my heart to. Thanks to all of you who have helped us all reach out.

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  27. Aw, I love Candace! What a wonderful post!

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  28. You have a very generous heart Jessica.
    :-)

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  29. Jessica, great loving post! I checked out the site and I now follow Candace. Thanks :)

    Jenn
    Love Every Day

    P.S. I do accept submissions of love for my blog - you can send out anonymous love, or dedicate your poem, or address the mini letter.

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  30. I love Candace, what a awesome tribute!

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